tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post6205753227172093711..comments2023-07-15T01:30:35.225-07:00Comments on The Stripping Warrior: No to Soul ChemoCLARK JOHNSENhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02893018646857280001noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-5514049704396818542008-02-09T10:56:00.000-08:002008-02-09T10:56:00.000-08:00AND here I am again. For parallel mormon. Me, be...AND here I am again. For parallel mormon. Me, being the ex-wife of a gay man agree with the gays on this issue. You are in denial. <BR/><BR/>I've walked the road of your wife. I had all the thoughts of "we are doing a righteous thing here"--and I've lived and seen the fallout of what you are attempting.<BR/><BR/>Being AUTHENTIC is much more life giving--as I have done both what you are doing and now am out of my gay'straight marriage. Your wife is losing something, too, and she doesn't even know it. She can't be authentic being married to a gay man who DOES NOT DESIRE HER. It is essential to her well-being. <BR/><BR/>For now, it is her choice (supposedly). Talk to us all in 5 years, 10 years . . . <BR/><BR/>Even my ex's friends who are still married are VERY ACTIVE SEXUALLY outside their marriage. Have you been completely faithful to your wife? When you have been married 20 years and have been faithful the entire time . . . call me. AND if you have cheated on your wife even emotionally, does she get to do the same--so she can know what it is like to connect at a very basic level with a man WHO TRULY DESIRES HER?cl2https://www.blogger.com/profile/14670444314880383058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-67597560925764940162007-11-12T10:08:00.000-08:002007-11-12T10:08:00.000-08:00I don't "well know" that, parallel mormon. I stan...I don't "well know" that, parallel mormon. I stand by my statement.<BR/><BR/>What you have offered is your view based on your religious faith. Which is fine for you, but not the solution for all.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05940646193920094814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-86452653558832133422007-11-10T08:41:00.000-08:002007-11-10T08:41:00.000-08:00Chris:Sexuality encompasses many things. One is a ...Chris:<BR/><BR/>Sexuality encompasses many things. One is a drive for sex, a need to join to another human being, a need to connect. There is also the need and capacity to love and care for another being, both the need to receive and the need to reciprocate. <BR/><BR/>Our homosexuality, and I am gay, our homosexuality is plain and simply a misguided libido, one that through no fault of our own went wrong in utero. <BR/><BR/>Therefore, we can do the right thing and trust that the Lord will open up a way for us to love a woman, or we can give in to the libido and join to a man. Homosexuality is no excuse for a man leaving his wife, for a cowardly man to buy his sexual gratification with her misery. <BR/><BR/>Moreover, in the resurrection the gay problem will be fixed rendering us either (a) heterosexually oriented toward our wife or (b) regretfully single for all eternity. <BR/><BR/>This is why gay marriage is no solution. Yes a man can love a man tenderly and with great nurture--this has to do with our capacity to give love and be loved. Yes a man can experience passionate intimacy with a man (the libido). But once the resurrection cures whatever went wrong with our libido, the two men will have no attraction for each other, and having entered a marriage partnership beyond the bounds set forth in the Melchizedek Priesthood, there is no more marriage relationship for eternity.<BR/><BR/>In case any MoHo brethren are reading they should take this into consideration.<BR/><BR/>As you well know, Chris, I have demeaned no one. Only withholding the truth would have been unchristian.Parallel Mormonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01525409191424652411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-48252690176593266922007-11-09T11:21:00.000-08:002007-11-09T11:21:00.000-08:00parallel mormon:You demean Clark--and yourself--wh...parallel mormon:<BR/><BR/>You demean Clark--and yourself--when you reduce his journey to authenticity and peace with God to a simple matter of libido and sexual desire. Sexuality encompasses more than sex. It is a desire for inimacy and love and connection.<BR/><BR/>Your judgment is decidedly unChristian.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05940646193920094814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-1222551252754130362007-10-28T21:58:00.000-07:002007-10-28T21:58:00.000-07:00Stripping Warrior:I admire the devotion you have t...Stripping Warrior:<BR/><BR/>I admire the devotion you have to making a place for spirituality in your life. I also somewhat admire your courage. However, your courage is not focused on bringing happiness into anyone's life, not even your own. It is focused on allowing yourself to surrender to your temptations. <BR/><BR/>You have proven what many Latter-day Saints deny, and wrongfully deny, that with Heavenly Father it is an "all or nothing" affair. But we read that He makes the sun shine on the righteous as well as the wicked, which is good since we all fall under the latter camp to varying degrees at any given moment. My point is that ultimately it is only a false Mormon folk belief that anyone who surrenders to sexual temptation, gay or straight, is cut off from any measure of the Spirit. <BR/><BR/>You glory in what you have discovered, and I am happy that you remain a man of faith, or perhaps you have become a man of faith. However, for those of us who blog in search of answers or encouragement, it is necessary to point out that those of us who opt to follow after the Lord have a wife who loves us and sticks by us through thick and thin, and beautiful little children who make everything in this life worthwhile. <BR/><BR/>I believe you chose wrongly, you are confused, you have been misled by your libido, you have sacrificed intense happiness, but you are my brother in faith. <BR/><BR/>I apologize for sounding judgmental, but I worry that MoHo brethren may look at your story and think that "it hath profited them nothing to walk mournfully before the Lord" and thereby be tempted to call "wickedness happiness." Yes, we can break the Law of Chastity and still feel the Spirit, still be guided, still feel the Savior's love--that does not mean He approves of our actions, nor does it mean that our sins are the best choice we could make. Has sleeping with men made you more like the Savior? Forgive my brusque question, but this is the elephant in the room that needs to be pointed out. <BR/><BR/>Your search for spirituality is beautiful, please do not get me wrong. Your choice to sleep around is sad as it distances you from who you are truly meant to be.<BR/><BR/>I hope no one else is swayed to the same mistakes by you just because you're young, articulate and handsome. If we think better above the waist, and then below the waist can become miraculous too. I know this for a fact.Parallel Mormonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01525409191424652411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-55982846214835121462007-10-21T10:25:00.000-07:002007-10-21T10:25:00.000-07:00Hey, what an awesome post. I couldn't agree more....Hey, what an awesome post. I couldn't agree more. I am more alive now than I have ever been.Distinguishing Preoccupationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03595180957813663545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-65358669641343972462007-09-27T01:39:00.000-07:002007-09-27T01:39:00.000-07:00Once again you have proven to be whole and beautif...Once again you have proven to be whole and beautiful. I'm so proud of you. I look at your journey and feel as though you have found a greater more compasionate part of yourself and it's increasing with every passing day.<BR/><BR/>This dicotomy is the most fascinating paradox of the spiritual path. To sin is to not be connected to our Heavenly Father. Either we do or we don't, that's the trial of our faith, not who we love or how we love. Those details have nothing to do with our worshiping the Savior.<BR/><BR/>(I'm pulling on the necklace around my neck and sliding the chain back and forth as I say "I love you so much.")elbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07742457647216774548noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-90394317719271911292007-09-22T15:23:00.000-07:002007-09-22T15:23:00.000-07:00Keep your passion for life and your connection to ...Keep your passion for life <I>and</I> your connection to God! It is in that intersection of body and spirit that we become a unified, joyful human soul!<BR/><BR/>I had one thought in response to your essay... It triggered a scriptural association. Jesus said, "He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it."<BR/><BR/>Life is full of these paradoxes... We find new life only by passing through the shadow of the valley of death. Peace only comes through struggle. Cancer and chemo are horrible things, but it is often in the face of such dire experiences that we truly appreciate the value of life.John Gustav-Wrathallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03557940681381951271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-33445626608942396292007-09-22T11:31:00.001-07:002007-09-22T11:31:00.001-07:00To be clear: I do appreciate you talking about the...To be clear: I do appreciate you talking about them. <B>:)</B>playasinmarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05998841658611428960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5138426962668120308.post-80062487856227156802007-09-22T11:31:00.000-07:002007-09-22T11:31:00.000-07:00Shouldn’t the same important things be the same im...Shouldn’t the same important things be the same important things whether the relationship is gay or straight?<BR/><BR/>Three cheers to you for having the conviction to follow your beliefs and not <I>just</I> talk about them.playasinmarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05998841658611428960noreply@blogger.com